When you find yourself about to give in to something because it's just easier to say yes, ask yourself if you will totally regret doing it.

The next time you really have to strut your stuff and make a knock-out impression, wear a killer pair of heels.

Schedule time each week for planning and dreaming.

Take a secret I learned from Jennifer Lopez: the next time you're posing for the camera, have a very sexy thought in your head. Your photo will come out great!

If you've bought a killer outfit for your new job, go ahead and wear it the first day and start strong.

Forget your rigid five- or ten- or twenty-year plan — they will prevent you from being receptive to unexpected opportunities.

Never say no to an opportunity until you've considered it for at least twenty-four hours.

The next time you are enjoying a great sunset, see how it feels to quietly savor it together, rather than offering a running commentary.

If you have a crisis at work, mull over possible solutions in your mind rather than venting for forty-five minutes to your guy.

Always the one driving the conversation when you're out on a date with your guy? Next time, be silent and see where it takes you.

The next time you walk into a party, get a quick confidence booster by thinking to yourself: I so own this room.